Notes from a randomly selected book. 4.

Well, this was not exactly randomly selected. But it was not me who picked it out. A friend of mine brought it to me, just for fun…or not?

If you know me a little you might find it difficult to believe it, but I have just finished reading He’s just not that into you, a celebrated self-help manual from the authors of Sex and the City. Surely, I like the idea of having casually happened to read it, because I am too picky and proud to buy a book like this. But I must admit that I really enjoyed reading it.

So, here are a few excerpts that might give you an idea of why I liked it (and, maybe, a reason to read it).

Hey. I  know that guy you’re dating. Yeah, I do. He’s that guy that so tired from work, so stressed about the project he’s working on. He’s just been through an awful breakup and it’s really hitting him hard. His parents’ divorce has scarred him and he has trust issues. Right now he has to focus on his career. He can’t get involved with anyone until he knows what his life is about. … God he’s so complicated. He is a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him he will completely disappear from your life. … A man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he’s just not that into you. That’s why we have written this book.

I know a couple who date for many years and then broke up. They had a lot of mutual friends and everyone took it very hard. Five years later, they got back together again and are now happily married. During the time apart, there were no dates or phone calls or being chums. They didn’t torture, confuse, or hurt each other in the process. They moved on with their lives, grew up separately,  and only then realized, much later, that they could be together again.

Hmmm, that’s enough. I am not even sure that those citations work. But tonight I have the feeling that the book has worked for me. And I hope such feeling won’t last tomorrow.